Why do we avoid arguing? Often times it is the avoidance of pain, or the fear of hurting another's feelings and the disconnect we feel afterward. This does not have to be the case. Arguing with an intent to improve the relationship can result in a stronger bond than we ever experience otherwise. It means you have boundaries, that you respect yourself, and this kind of healthy self-image is a great building block for creating better relationships with others. It's important, of course, to respect the other person's right to disagree, and to avoid belittling, but when two respectful people argue, even passionately, it creates even more respect one for the other.